A guide to setting healthy digital boundaries at home

(originally published 19 September 2021, updated July 2025)

Why healthy digital boundaries are more important than ever

Today, it’s nearly impossible to imagine life without screens, whether it’s for learning, working, socialising or entertainment. But being ‘always on’ can be damaging to our digital wellbeing, compromising real world social interaction, sleep and quality time out of reach of work colleagues. Establishing healthy digital boundaries at home is critical for enabling families to use tech wisely, protecting both mental health and relationships.

Understanding your family’s why

Research (https://alankazdin.com/challenges-of-the-internet-and-social-media-for-parents/ ) shows that 25 per cent of adolescents say they’re ‘constantly connected’, logging at least two hours of screen time on weekdays and even more at weekends - often far more than parents realise. 

Each family needs tailored rules rather than off-the-shelf limits; as Rachael Kwacz (https://rachealkwacz.com ) explains, identifying your family’s purpose or ‘why’ is essential. Maybe you want better sleep, more quality conversation or outdoor time, and your boundaries should support those goals.

Setting boundaries that make sense

Begin by having open conversations, firstly with your partner to align on rules, then with your child so they understand the reasoning. Encourage them to give input and feel heard, so as not to come across as if dictating ‘how it is’, and use trusted resources like Common Sense Media to guide age-appropriate limits.  

Over time, you’ll need to focus on human connection as a means to reduce deice dependency, rather than imposing arbitrary restrictions. In that children reflexively ask for screen time to satisfy boredom or loneliness, if we can meet those emotional needs through shared activities like games, reading and cooking, they’re less likely to seek screens for comfort. This trust-building approach makes boundaries more effective and impactful.

Putting rules into practice

To ensure your boundaries stick, consistency is vital, so whilst children may test the rules, giving in repeatedly teaches them they’ll win through persistence. Staying firm, even when it’s tempting to give another five minutes of previously unsanctioned screen time, shows them boundaries aren’t negotiable.
Of course, these boundaries need to be reasonable. Put simply, choose clear limits and enforce them every day, rain or shine, tantrums or puppy dog eyes included.

Making digital boundaries part of family life

Healthy digital boundaries aren’t a one off solution, but require a total lifestyle shift. Start by reflecting on your family’s tech habits, define purposeful boundaries rooted in your values, and enforce them consistently. Pair them with meaningful offline connection moments to build healthier habits now, knowing you’re helping your children develop long-term resilience, responsibility and self-control.